Are you stressed?  Do you carry with you tension and negative feelings?  Here’s a tip….Exercise.  All the reading I have been doing lately points to the same conclusion: exercise needs to be a part of your lifestyle.  Not convinced?  Keep reading…

  • Exercise reduces feelings of anxiety and stress
  • New research shows exercise can reduce future stress

“The data suggest that people who exercise in the morning, for example, will have less of an increase in blood pressure and less of a feeling of stress if they are in a traffic jam on their way to work.” (Taken from USA weekend paper, 2012, quotes by John Bartholomew, Professor of Kinesiology and health Ed at U of Texas-Austin)

  • Releases endorphins in your bloodstream creating a sense of well-being
  • Decreases muscle tension
  • Rids your body of toxins
  • Increases alpha wave activity in the brain, allowing you to clear your mind
  • Strengthens heart and lungs
  • Exercise is a building block to overall hardiness
  • “Not only does physical fitness produce stress resilience, but fit individuals are better able to preserve their cognitive functions.”(Lilly Mujica-Parodi, Stony Brook U)

Join a gym.  Buy a treadmill.  Join a Boot Camp class.  Try a Zumba class.  Go for a walk in the woods.  Learn how to ski.  Go for a swim at the YMCA.  Snowshoe.  Jump rope.  Ride your bike.  Do some type of physical activity and make it a part of your everyday life.

The benefits?  A stronger, healthier, less stressed you.

Ladies, rooms are filling up for my March Retreat of Rest and Renewal, sign up today!  If you register in January you will enter to win a spa treatment for further relaxation!  For details check out my NEW website at www.thejoysource.com   Hope to see you there!

 

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!  This is your year to SAY YES TO YOU! Ready to embrace the world and shine?    Here are 10 ideas to get you moving in the right direction for a more joyful life

1.  Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people.

2.  Buy a beautiful journal and start writing your dreams and goals for the New Year, what do you want to accomplish this year?  Where do you hope to be in 12 months?

3.  Take time for you every day, even if it is a quiet walk around the block.

4.  Exercise!  Make the time, you will feel less stressed, healthy and your heart will thank you.

5.  Ditch the bad habits and replace them with healthier ones.

6.  Sign up for some new classes to grow and learn, my Joy Course will be starting in the Spring!  You will feel empowered and more confident!

7.  Work less, play more…or at least strike a balance.

8.  Forgive and let go.

9.  DREAM BIG!

10.  Join me at my Woman’s Retreat of Rest and Renewal, March 10th and 11th at the Stonehedge Inn and Spa and in Tyngsboro MA.  Oh, what fun we are going to have!  Set your New Years goals in motion with time to relax, think, dream, unwind and GROW.   Call your best friend and invite her too!  Register today!  www.thejoysource.com

Invest in you.  You are worth it.  If you need a positive push, email me and ask about my individual Joy Coaching program, it might be just what you need!  In Person or virtual.

It’s Time to make your dreams come true.

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is full, who is content,

 who feels worthy and who makes the right choices

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who makes the right decisions, who believes in her strengths, her capabilities and doesn’t spend much time trying to correct her weaknesses

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who capitalizes on her strengths, who doesn’t let the past define her, who doesn’t try to be better than anyone else in her life

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is creating her life exactly how she wants it to be, a woman who sets boundaries for herself, who can disappoint another to be true to her self

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who knows the feeling of going from lack to abundance; a strong, confident woman, who has the feeling of contentment with her self

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is fully aware and insightful, spending time in quiet reflection on how far she’s come and where she hopes to be

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who sets goals and dreams for herself, always looking forward reaching, not dwelling on the past, only looking back long enough to know she never wants to return there.

Being better than you used to be requires not dwelling in the past but reflecting long enough to marvel at how much you’ve grown

Being better than you used to be is about making positive choices each and every day

Choices that affect your happiness, nourish your being and bring you joy

Being better than you used to be is about igniting your spirit in such a way that you feel fully alive and vibrant

Be This Woman.  Be Better Than You Used To Be.

Our next JoySource Event is our March Retreat “A Weekend of Rest and Renewal”  March 10 & 11, details to follow

“Hardiness gives you the COURAGE AND MOTIVATION to do the hard work of

 GROWING AND DEVELOPING

 rather than

 DENYING and AVOIDING”

(S. Maddi-Psychology Today)

What makes us hardy?  Life.  How we engage in life.   Challenging ourselves.  Taking risks.  Learning new ways to deal with stress.  Getting back up after life kicks us down.  Facing your fears.  Participating in your life, good or bad, instead of just showing up.

Courage + Motivation= Growing and Developing

Get up of the couch, shut OFF the bad reality television that broadcasts negativity, put the pint of ice cream away and go out for a walk.  Start reading a new book.  Learn a new skill.  Seek out a quiet spot in nature.  Challenge yourself today, tomorrow and the next day.  What have you been meaning to do but haven’t found the time? It’s time to grow and develop.  This is a constant process for us, your age doesn’t matter; strive to be better than you used to be.  More hardy.  More joy.

You have to work at being resilient.  Hardy people have higher levels of committment to themselves, their faith, their work and their families.  They believe they control their destiny; they don’t fall victim to what is going on externally around them.  “Hardy people see the changes in life as challenges to master, not obstacles to overcome.” (Stress management; B. Brehm)

I encourage you to keep growing, take risks, seek out quality friendships, face your fears. Be better than you used to be.

Denying and Avoiding will get you nowhere fast  (and annoy everyone around you).  Hardiness is a quality that will serve you well in life.  How hardy are you?

It starts with an idea, a vision in your head of where you want to be and what you want to accomplish.  It permeates in your brain, taking over until you can’t get the thoughts out of your mind.  You are pretty sure you are up to the challenge, but how can one ever be sure?  You spend time writing it down, you formulate the words to describe how you need to push yourself and now it’s on paper. Finally the thoughts and ideas of what direction you want your life to go in are ready to be spoken.

Your close friends suspend judgment.  They listen.  They watch you light up as you describe your dream.  They answer you with, “Yes, you can do this“, followed up by, “Yes, I see you doing this.”

That’s all one needs to begin the journey of self growth.

You commit to months of preparation, knowing that risk has advantages and disadvantages.  But it is out there.  The dream once inside your head for years is out there for the world to know.  How does one go back now?  You don’t.  Forward is the only option.

So you push through the fear, the uncertainty that creeps in when you are tired and frustrated.  Maybe this isn’t such a good idea?  Your best friend begs to differ.  She reassures that it is a good idea and you will be great.  Oh, that’s right, you think to yourself, “I am capable of creating my world exactly how I want it to be.” To ward off future doubt, you surround yourself with people who support, uplift and see you where you want to be.  They are necessary to your survival.

And the day comes when you are ready to take it all on.  You are prepared, confident and at ease.  You accomplished your greatest desire- not only did you set a goal, but you saw it to fruition.  You worked through the uneasiness and fear, knowing the feelings of success and confidence would propel you forward in your life.  You can never go back to who you once were. Why would you want to?

Growing.  Getting better.  Challenging yourself to accomplish great things.  Do it.  Take the Risk to Grow.  I did, and

Tonight I am not the same girl.

1. Income

2.  Physical Health

3.  Joy in Living

Research has shown the above 3 are some of the best predictors of successful aging.  Where do you fit in on this list?

Having your finances in order breathes a huge sigh of relief in our lives.  Stress from debt can cause one to age rapidly and as we know, stress takes a toll on our physical health.  Headaches, stomachaches, tension, high blood pressure (just to name a few, but I could go on and on) are just a few ways stress manifests itself in our bodies.  How much stuff do you really need anyway?  Instead of buying and spending money,  seek the experience instead (see earlier blog posting).

Physical Health means staying active, it doesn’t mean having the body of a supermodel.  Be fit.  Keep moving.  Embrace your body, respect it and treat it well.  It will serve you well later in life if you eat properly, exercise and feel good in your clothing.  I promise you that.

Joy in Living, YES!!  My favorite topic!!  Find out what brings you joy in your life and incorporate more of it.  Don’t focus on what brings you down, in fact, don’t even hang around with anyone who makes you feel bad or casts a negative shadow on your life.

As I come upon my professional seminars over the next few months for those licensed in the Mental Health field, (the topic is  Stress and Job Burnout: When to Get Out or Go Back In?), I studied a lot of what stress does to the body and I encourage you to de-stress and practice those  coping skills.  Those who age well have an optimistic outlook on life; they found their joy in living!  It is never too late to make some changes in your life…start by spending less, getting an education, stay active, find an exercise you enjoy and do it often, find what makes you happy and brings you joy and welcome it in your life each and every day.

Embrace your age, be better than you used to be, it’s your choice.  Make the right one.

Any idiot can face a crisis- it’s this day-to-day living that wears you out,” said the Russian Playwright Anton Chekhov. Day to day living can wear you out, for many it is filled with the same old routine- the bills, the kids and their homework, the laundry, and the list goes on and on.  How to make those days feel less ordinary and more joyful you ask? Well for starters try some of these suggestions:

1.  Laugh every day.  Call a friend and be silly.  Laugh at how awful your day is going.  Laughing is a known stress reducer!

2.  Play hookie.  Call in sick and go out and do something soul nourishing.  Go climb a mountain.  Spend the day with your lover.  Go for a walk on the beach.

3.  Let it go.  All that is bothering you, work through it and release it.  Negative thoughts, angry feelings and harbored resentments will not serve you in your quest to be joyful.

4.  When things don’t go your way or go as planned, change your plans.  Be flexible.

5.  Surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed.

6.  Break routine and have cake for breakfast.

“Intentionally expose yourself to things that you’re afraid of.  Start telling yourself that the smooth, comfortable life is not something to strive for, but rather a recipe for boredom and stagnation,” suggests West Point Psychologist Michael Matthews.

Passion.  Love.  Joy.  Contentment.  Excitement. Fun.  Strive for those feelings in your ordinary days.

C’mon join the joy ride. Be a Joy Rider.