Where is it you need to be?

Do you need Faith?  This week go to your worship service.

Do you need a good sweat?  Go to your gym or join one.

Is it solace you need?  Go for a hike in the woods minus the IPOD and cell phone.  Just you and your thoughts.

Go where you need to be.

Not where people tell you to go.  Not a place that is negative.  Nor a place you leave frustrated and unhappy.

Go to that place of excitement, joy and happiness.

Don’t go by intimidation or guilt.

Go where your heart is telling you to go.  For each one of us needing comfort and love, it is a different place.

Walk in the woods.  Laughter with friends.  Passion with our soul mate.  Joy with our children.  Deep conversation with God.

Go where your soul aches to go.  Only you know that place.  Give yourself permission to go there.  Wherever it is.  Just go.

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Are you stressed?  Do you carry with you tension and negative feelings?  Here’s a tip….Exercise.  All the reading I have been doing lately points to the same conclusion: exercise needs to be a part of your lifestyle.  Not convinced?  Keep reading…

  • Exercise reduces feelings of anxiety and stress
  • New research shows exercise can reduce future stress

“The data suggest that people who exercise in the morning, for example, will have less of an increase in blood pressure and less of a feeling of stress if they are in a traffic jam on their way to work.” (Taken from USA weekend paper, 2012, quotes by John Bartholomew, Professor of Kinesiology and health Ed at U of Texas-Austin)

  • Releases endorphins in your bloodstream creating a sense of well-being
  • Decreases muscle tension
  • Rids your body of toxins
  • Increases alpha wave activity in the brain, allowing you to clear your mind
  • Strengthens heart and lungs
  • Exercise is a building block to overall hardiness
  • “Not only does physical fitness produce stress resilience, but fit individuals are better able to preserve their cognitive functions.”(Lilly Mujica-Parodi, Stony Brook U)

Join a gym.  Buy a treadmill.  Join a Boot Camp class.  Try a Zumba class.  Go for a walk in the woods.  Learn how to ski.  Go for a swim at the YMCA.  Snowshoe.  Jump rope.  Ride your bike.  Do some type of physical activity and make it a part of your everyday life.

The benefits?  A stronger, healthier, less stressed you.

Ladies, rooms are filling up for my March Retreat of Rest and Renewal, sign up today!  If you register in January you will enter to win a spa treatment for further relaxation!  For details check out my NEW website at www.thejoysource.com   Hope to see you there!

 

HAPPY NEW YEAR!  This is your year to SAY YES TO YOU! Ready to embrace the world and shine?    Here are 10 ideas to get you moving in the right direction for a more joyful life

1.  Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people.

2.  Buy a beautiful journal and start writing your dreams and goals for the New Year, what do you want to accomplish this year?  Where do you hope to be in 12 months?

3.  Take time for you every day, even if it is a quiet walk around the block.

4.  Exercise!  Make the time, you will feel less stressed, healthy and your heart will thank you.

5.  Ditch the bad habits and replace them with healthier ones.

6.  Sign up for some new classes to grow and learn, my Joy Course will be starting in the Spring!  You will feel empowered and more confident!

7.  Work less, play more…or at least strike a balance.

8.  Forgive and let go.

9.  DREAM BIG!

10.  Join me at my Woman’s Retreat of Rest and Renewal, March 10th and 11th at the Stonehedge Inn and Spa and in Tyngsboro MA.  Oh, what fun we are going to have!  Set your New Years goals in motion with time to relax, think, dream, unwind and GROW.   Call your best friend and invite her too!  Register today!  www.thejoysource.com

Invest in you.  You are worth it.  If you need a positive push, email me and ask about my individual Joy Coaching program, it might be just what you need!  In Person or virtual.

It’s Time to make your dreams come true.

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is full, who is content,

 who feels worthy and who makes the right choices

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who makes the right decisions, who believes in her strengths, her capabilities and doesn’t spend much time trying to correct her weaknesses

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who capitalizes on her strengths, who doesn’t let the past define her, who doesn’t try to be better than anyone else in her life

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is creating her life exactly how she wants it to be, a woman who sets boundaries for herself, who can disappoint another to be true to her self

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who knows the feeling of going from lack to abundance; a strong, confident woman, who has the feeling of contentment with her self

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is fully aware and insightful, spending time in quiet reflection on how far she’s come and where she hopes to be

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who sets goals and dreams for herself, always looking forward reaching, not dwelling on the past, only looking back long enough to know she never wants to return there.

Being better than you used to be requires not dwelling in the past but reflecting long enough to marvel at how much you’ve grown

Being better than you used to be is about making positive choices each and every day

Choices that affect your happiness, nourish your being and bring you joy

Being better than you used to be is about igniting your spirit in such a way that you feel fully alive and vibrant

Be This Woman.  Be Better Than You Used To Be.

Our next JoySource Event is our March Retreat “A Weekend of Rest and Renewal”  March 10 & 11, details to follow

It starts with an idea, a vision in your head of where you want to be and what you want to accomplish.  It permeates in your brain, taking over until you can’t get the thoughts out of your mind.  You are pretty sure you are up to the challenge, but how can one ever be sure?  You spend time writing it down, you formulate the words to describe how you need to push yourself and now it’s on paper. Finally the thoughts and ideas of what direction you want your life to go in are ready to be spoken.

Your close friends suspend judgment.  They listen.  They watch you light up as you describe your dream.  They answer you with, “Yes, you can do this“, followed up by, “Yes, I see you doing this.”

That’s all one needs to begin the journey of self growth.

You commit to months of preparation, knowing that risk has advantages and disadvantages.  But it is out there.  The dream once inside your head for years is out there for the world to know.  How does one go back now?  You don’t.  Forward is the only option.

So you push through the fear, the uncertainty that creeps in when you are tired and frustrated.  Maybe this isn’t such a good idea?  Your best friend begs to differ.  She reassures that it is a good idea and you will be great.  Oh, that’s right, you think to yourself, “I am capable of creating my world exactly how I want it to be.” To ward off future doubt, you surround yourself with people who support, uplift and see you where you want to be.  They are necessary to your survival.

And the day comes when you are ready to take it all on.  You are prepared, confident and at ease.  You accomplished your greatest desire- not only did you set a goal, but you saw it to fruition.  You worked through the uneasiness and fear, knowing the feelings of success and confidence would propel you forward in your life.  You can never go back to who you once were. Why would you want to?

Growing.  Getting better.  Challenging yourself to accomplish great things.  Do it.  Take the Risk to Grow.  I did, and

Tonight I am not the same girl.

Tell me about your joys.  Moments of happiness, living in the present time, being truly present in today, not tomorrow or next month; today only.  You are elated.  Excited.  You feel it through your entire body, you are glowing.  These moments, these so very important and wonderful moments can be referred to as “Flow” moments.  According to M. Csikszentmihalyi in his book Flow, he uses the term flow to mean

“joy, creativity, the process of total involvement with life.”

 

What are your flow moments?  When did they occur today?  At work when you were giving a truly prepared, intelligent, words coming out perfectly presentation?  Inside your mind you were shouting YES!!! Or was Flow happening at  home with your family as you  laughed loudly and hugged those little ones tightly?  Maybe you experienced flow while working on your hobbies; feeling energized with creativity.  Or in quiet moments with your lover, sharing a joy of intimacy that nourishes your soul.

 Maybe you have you not felt flow moments in a long time. You are depleted, empty, tired, stressed….not in a joyful or creative mood.  It is easy to get disconnected from your life; there are errands to run, kids to bathe, work to complete, bills to pay.

Moments of flow are necessary to a joyful life.

Spend some time with your friends.  I was out with my Boot Camp ladies for dinner in Boston last night, 5 women who come from different backgrounds and experiences,  meeting at the gym at 5:30am weekly for years, over time becoming friends, companions, confidants.  We gather for dinner to laugh, share stories, details of our lives, totally immersed in this circle of friendship.  Flow moments.  Laughing.  Enjoying.  Smiling.  Intently listening and learning.  And eating delicious food.  There are no kids to demand our attention, no pans of food to cook nor to wash.  We sit for hours dining, smiling and relaxing.  There is nowhere to be but right here… together.  In this moment we are not thinking about the kids lunches to be made tonight nor the clothes to wash nor the tiring work schedule this week.  We are just here.  Now.  In the present moment.  Flow moments.

 I wish you flow moments today.  Everyday.  Flow.  Find that joy, the creativity, the process of total involvement with life.

Join me all you wonderful women! Come celebrate joy and creativity at my March Retreat of Rest and Renewal.  It will be a weekend of relaxation, inspiration and fun.  Space is limited and starting to fill up.  Send your deposit to hold your spot today.  Email me with any questions at Julie @thejoysource.com

“Intimacy- closeness to yourself in times of solitude or closeness to others in moments of sharing and connecting- reflects your inner world as almost nothing else does.  And this intimacy begins from the inside; it begins with your own self.”~  Intimacy and Solitude by S. Dowrick

Are you comfortable with yourself?  Do you know yourself well? Or, do you rely on others to shape who you are?  As I read the book Intimacy and Solitude, the constant message is know thyself, know thyself, know thyself.  How can you give to others what you yourself don’t have?  How can you truly love another when you don’t love yourself? 

 NOW IS THE TIME.  Seek out solitude.  Spend time dreaming, setting goals and getting to know  yourself.  A Woman who knows herself fully is emotionally strong, firm in her beliefs and doesn’t get thrown off course when things don’t go her way.  Nor does she engage in harmful gossip.  There is nothing to prove to others when you deeply are connected to yourself, because the belief is

 I AM GOOD ENOUGH.  The rest flows smoothly.  You feel joyful from the inside and it reflects on the outside.  You glow.  It is real and people take notice.  Jump start your journey by spending the weekend with me  and some amazing women in March at a soul nourishing retreat as we inspire you to be joyful and discover your inner beauty.

Moments of solitude are hard to come by in the holiday season.  Parties, get togethers,  shopping malls filled with noise and people… did I mention parties?  Despite the Holiday rush, try your best to slow it down.  Be creative in finding your quiet moments.   Take the time to wake up a little earlier when the rest of the house is still sleeping or turn off the television at night, sit in front of the fire or the lighted tree or in darkness and JUST BE.

S. Dowrick continues to say in her book, ” The person who feels real inside…knows too that when she is alone she is not alone with no one, but is alone with her own imagination, thoughts and feelings, experiences and memories.  In short, she is alone with her own self.”

Know Thyself.