HAPPY NEW YEAR!  This is your year to SAY YES TO YOU! Ready to embrace the world and shine?    Here are 10 ideas to get you moving in the right direction for a more joyful life

1.  Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people.

2.  Buy a beautiful journal and start writing your dreams and goals for the New Year, what do you want to accomplish this year?  Where do you hope to be in 12 months?

3.  Take time for you every day, even if it is a quiet walk around the block.

4.  Exercise!  Make the time, you will feel less stressed, healthy and your heart will thank you.

5.  Ditch the bad habits and replace them with healthier ones.

6.  Sign up for some new classes to grow and learn, my Joy Course will be starting in the Spring!  You will feel empowered and more confident!

7.  Work less, play more…or at least strike a balance.

8.  Forgive and let go.

9.  DREAM BIG!

10.  Join me at my Woman’s Retreat of Rest and Renewal, March 10th and 11th at the Stonehedge Inn and Spa and in Tyngsboro MA.  Oh, what fun we are going to have!  Set your New Years goals in motion with time to relax, think, dream, unwind and GROW.   Call your best friend and invite her too!  Register today!  www.thejoysource.com

Invest in you.  You are worth it.  If you need a positive push, email me and ask about my individual Joy Coaching program, it might be just what you need!  In Person or virtual.

It’s Time to make your dreams come true.

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Friends, wonderful friends!  They uplift, console, and understand you.  They add joy to your life and give you confidence to take the risk of making your dreams come true.  They offer a softer place to land when life throws you unexpected curve balls.  When you leave the company of such friends you feel full and content.  Your soul has been nourished, even if it was just a quick hour and a hot cup of coffee.  My day was once made lighter and more joyful after an unexpected hug from a friend in the parking lot of my daughter’s daycare.  It was one of those warm embraces that said “I am here with you at all times, keep going.”

Who shines their light on your life?  Who do you call when you have exciting news to share?  Who are your most cherished friends?

My favorite inspirational speaker Dr. Wayne Dyer says,” Choose to be in close proximity to people who are empowering, who appeal to your sense of connection to intention, who see the greatness in you, who feel connected to God, and who live a life that gives evidence that spirit has found celebration through them.”

Go out and LAUGH

Sit together and TELL STORIES

Eat dinner and SUPPORT EACH OTHER

Sip tea and CRY (let it all out, you are in good company)

Go for a walk and DREAM BIG

Talk on the phone and GET INSPIRED

Hug for an hour and BE HELD

Share your accomplishments and SHARE THE JOY

It’s all in the company you keep.

“Hardiness gives you the COURAGE AND MOTIVATION to do the hard work of

 GROWING AND DEVELOPING

 rather than

 DENYING and AVOIDING”

(S. Maddi-Psychology Today)

What makes us hardy?  Life.  How we engage in life.   Challenging ourselves.  Taking risks.  Learning new ways to deal with stress.  Getting back up after life kicks us down.  Facing your fears.  Participating in your life, good or bad, instead of just showing up.

Courage + Motivation= Growing and Developing

Get up of the couch, shut OFF the bad reality television that broadcasts negativity, put the pint of ice cream away and go out for a walk.  Start reading a new book.  Learn a new skill.  Seek out a quiet spot in nature.  Challenge yourself today, tomorrow and the next day.  What have you been meaning to do but haven’t found the time? It’s time to grow and develop.  This is a constant process for us, your age doesn’t matter; strive to be better than you used to be.  More hardy.  More joy.

You have to work at being resilient.  Hardy people have higher levels of committment to themselves, their faith, their work and their families.  They believe they control their destiny; they don’t fall victim to what is going on externally around them.  “Hardy people see the changes in life as challenges to master, not obstacles to overcome.” (Stress management; B. Brehm)

I encourage you to keep growing, take risks, seek out quality friendships, face your fears. Be better than you used to be.

Denying and Avoiding will get you nowhere fast  (and annoy everyone around you).  Hardiness is a quality that will serve you well in life.  How hardy are you?

It starts with an idea, a vision in your head of where you want to be and what you want to accomplish.  It permeates in your brain, taking over until you can’t get the thoughts out of your mind.  You are pretty sure you are up to the challenge, but how can one ever be sure?  You spend time writing it down, you formulate the words to describe how you need to push yourself and now it’s on paper. Finally the thoughts and ideas of what direction you want your life to go in are ready to be spoken.

Your close friends suspend judgment.  They listen.  They watch you light up as you describe your dream.  They answer you with, “Yes, you can do this“, followed up by, “Yes, I see you doing this.”

That’s all one needs to begin the journey of self growth.

You commit to months of preparation, knowing that risk has advantages and disadvantages.  But it is out there.  The dream once inside your head for years is out there for the world to know.  How does one go back now?  You don’t.  Forward is the only option.

So you push through the fear, the uncertainty that creeps in when you are tired and frustrated.  Maybe this isn’t such a good idea?  Your best friend begs to differ.  She reassures that it is a good idea and you will be great.  Oh, that’s right, you think to yourself, “I am capable of creating my world exactly how I want it to be.” To ward off future doubt, you surround yourself with people who support, uplift and see you where you want to be.  They are necessary to your survival.

And the day comes when you are ready to take it all on.  You are prepared, confident and at ease.  You accomplished your greatest desire- not only did you set a goal, but you saw it to fruition.  You worked through the uneasiness and fear, knowing the feelings of success and confidence would propel you forward in your life.  You can never go back to who you once were. Why would you want to?

Growing.  Getting better.  Challenging yourself to accomplish great things.  Do it.  Take the Risk to Grow.  I did, and

Tonight I am not the same girl.

Let me start with an excerpt from one of my favorite books “The invitation” by Oriah,

When I turn my face away from the longing because of my fear of being the fool, I must work to cover the cracks in my resolve to abandon the heat of my desire.  But my soul is too aligned with life to give up.  Late at night when I am too weary to push away the longing, she comes looking for me, begging me to simply be with her and my fear of her.  I can hear her, a small, insistent voice asking me to remember that desire lived brings ecstasy of falling more deeply in love with my own life every day.  And in the moment of this remembering, no risk seems to great.”

Falling in Love with your own life every day.  Imagine that.  Taking risks to make your life exactly how you want it to be.  Happy with your choices and no regrets.  Of course there are choices we wish we didn’t make, or roads we took that looking back were not the best, leave all that behind you.  Now is the time to make your life everything you want it to be.   How?  Start with ….

Who Surrounds you?

Choose your friends wisely.  Positive uplifting people can make all the difference.  When you are with inspiring people, you too become inspired.

Your Career?

Is it time to take some new classes, read some books, attend seminars to get you excited about your profession?  Or is it time to take a risk and find one that you truly enjoy.

Your Partner?

Do they nourish you?  Love you?  Fulfill you?  Are you more joyful with them, or without them?  Seek to be with your true soul mate, if you have already found him/her…you are blessed indeed.

Hobbies?

What fuels your passion?  Sports? Scrapbooking? Reading?  Creating?  Find it.  Engage in these activities regularly.  Just because you are busy doesn’t mean you should give up on what you enjoy most.  Make the time to do what you love.  If you don’t find the time, no one else will find it for you.

Create your life how you want it to be.  Love yourself.  Love your friends.  Love your Life.