How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is full, who is content,

 who feels worthy and who makes the right choices

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who makes the right decisions, who believes in her strengths, her capabilities and doesn’t spend much time trying to correct her weaknesses

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who capitalizes on her strengths, who doesn’t let the past define her, who doesn’t try to be better than anyone else in her life

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is creating her life exactly how she wants it to be, a woman who sets boundaries for herself, who can disappoint another to be true to her self

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who knows the feeling of going from lack to abundance; a strong, confident woman, who has the feeling of contentment with her self

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who is fully aware and insightful, spending time in quiet reflection on how far she’s come and where she hopes to be

How wonderful the feeling of a woman who sets goals and dreams for herself, always looking forward reaching, not dwelling on the past, only looking back long enough to know she never wants to return there.

Being better than you used to be requires not dwelling in the past but reflecting long enough to marvel at how much you’ve grown

Being better than you used to be is about making positive choices each and every day

Choices that affect your happiness, nourish your being and bring you joy

Being better than you used to be is about igniting your spirit in such a way that you feel fully alive and vibrant

Be This Woman.  Be Better Than You Used To Be.

Our next JoySource Event is our March Retreat “A Weekend of Rest and Renewal”  March 10 & 11, details to follow

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Tell me about your joys.  Moments of happiness, living in the present time, being truly present in today, not tomorrow or next month; today only.  You are elated.  Excited.  You feel it through your entire body, you are glowing.  These moments, these so very important and wonderful moments can be referred to as “Flow” moments.  According to M. Csikszentmihalyi in his book Flow, he uses the term flow to mean

“joy, creativity, the process of total involvement with life.”

 

What are your flow moments?  When did they occur today?  At work when you were giving a truly prepared, intelligent, words coming out perfectly presentation?  Inside your mind you were shouting YES!!! Or was Flow happening at  home with your family as you  laughed loudly and hugged those little ones tightly?  Maybe you experienced flow while working on your hobbies; feeling energized with creativity.  Or in quiet moments with your lover, sharing a joy of intimacy that nourishes your soul.

 Maybe you have you not felt flow moments in a long time. You are depleted, empty, tired, stressed….not in a joyful or creative mood.  It is easy to get disconnected from your life; there are errands to run, kids to bathe, work to complete, bills to pay.

Moments of flow are necessary to a joyful life.

Spend some time with your friends.  I was out with my Boot Camp ladies for dinner in Boston last night, 5 women who come from different backgrounds and experiences,  meeting at the gym at 5:30am weekly for years, over time becoming friends, companions, confidants.  We gather for dinner to laugh, share stories, details of our lives, totally immersed in this circle of friendship.  Flow moments.  Laughing.  Enjoying.  Smiling.  Intently listening and learning.  And eating delicious food.  There are no kids to demand our attention, no pans of food to cook nor to wash.  We sit for hours dining, smiling and relaxing.  There is nowhere to be but right here… together.  In this moment we are not thinking about the kids lunches to be made tonight nor the clothes to wash nor the tiring work schedule this week.  We are just here.  Now.  In the present moment.  Flow moments.

 I wish you flow moments today.  Everyday.  Flow.  Find that joy, the creativity, the process of total involvement with life.

Join me all you wonderful women! Come celebrate joy and creativity at my March Retreat of Rest and Renewal.  It will be a weekend of relaxation, inspiration and fun.  Space is limited and starting to fill up.  Send your deposit to hold your spot today.  Email me with any questions at Julie @thejoysource.com

“Intimacy- closeness to yourself in times of solitude or closeness to others in moments of sharing and connecting- reflects your inner world as almost nothing else does.  And this intimacy begins from the inside; it begins with your own self.”~  Intimacy and Solitude by S. Dowrick

Are you comfortable with yourself?  Do you know yourself well? Or, do you rely on others to shape who you are?  As I read the book Intimacy and Solitude, the constant message is know thyself, know thyself, know thyself.  How can you give to others what you yourself don’t have?  How can you truly love another when you don’t love yourself? 

 NOW IS THE TIME.  Seek out solitude.  Spend time dreaming, setting goals and getting to know  yourself.  A Woman who knows herself fully is emotionally strong, firm in her beliefs and doesn’t get thrown off course when things don’t go her way.  Nor does she engage in harmful gossip.  There is nothing to prove to others when you deeply are connected to yourself, because the belief is

 I AM GOOD ENOUGH.  The rest flows smoothly.  You feel joyful from the inside and it reflects on the outside.  You glow.  It is real and people take notice.  Jump start your journey by spending the weekend with me  and some amazing women in March at a soul nourishing retreat as we inspire you to be joyful and discover your inner beauty.

Moments of solitude are hard to come by in the holiday season.  Parties, get togethers,  shopping malls filled with noise and people… did I mention parties?  Despite the Holiday rush, try your best to slow it down.  Be creative in finding your quiet moments.   Take the time to wake up a little earlier when the rest of the house is still sleeping or turn off the television at night, sit in front of the fire or the lighted tree or in darkness and JUST BE.

S. Dowrick continues to say in her book, ” The person who feels real inside…knows too that when she is alone she is not alone with no one, but is alone with her own imagination, thoughts and feelings, experiences and memories.  In short, she is alone with her own self.”

Know Thyself.

The inspiration and positive energy you can feel from attending an uplifting event can change your life.  Attending a conference for women focusing on setting your dreams and goals in motion might be just what you need right now.  Are you in need of some creative inspiration?   Are you stuck?  Do you want to be surrounded by amazing women? 

I have been planning the September 12th conference for women “A Women’s Day of Inspiration and Joy”, for the past year with hopes it will be an amazing event.  Over the past 5 years, I have traveled to the West Coast to attend these types of trainings and I have always left inspired, confident and ready to take on the world.  The only problem was , you  my friends, were not there to take part and celebrate with me.  So here I am on the East Coast, planning the event so we can all be inspired together!

Georgianna Melendez, a life coach and motivational speaker , will be speaking about confidence and how Confidence is Sexy.   Why, you ask?  Well, because it is.   I can tell if I am speaking to a confident woman by the way she speaks, interacts with others and how she dresses.   Come listen to Georgianna speak about this topic, you will be inspired!

Dr. Julie McCullough will be speaking about Stress reduction and Healthy living.  YES!  We are too stressed!  She has an excellent presentation that will combine the medical implications of stress on the body as well as stress reduction techniques.  Dr. Julie will lower your stress and you will feel better after hearing her speak!  Come join us!

Our Key Note  Speaker, Kim Todd, Executive Director of Dress for Success in Boston will be speaking about “The Power of Compassion”.  Dress for Success is an orginization that I have happily donated my professional clothing for years.  My thinking as I bring the clothing to their really cool office in Boston is that maybe a woman who is entering the work force might choose to wear it, enjoy it and  feel confident to ace an interview.  Listening to Kim will feed your passion about compassion.  Come celebrate her inspiring words!

As for me, I will be speaking about one of my favorite topics…RISK TO GROW.  I wrote about this topic in my last blog and will talk about it at any time for any reason, I always encourage you to grow, step out of your comfort zone and grow!   There will be wonderful raffles throughout the day, the Enchanted Cottage Bakery will be there providing us with sweet treats to sample and buy, my hand-made “Joy jewelry” and note  cards will be available to purchase as well.  Oh what a fun day!  Won’t you join me and these amazing women I mentioned above? 

Registration is happening now.  If you go to my website and print out the registration form you will be one step closer to attending this exciting day.  You can also register via Paypal.

Let’s get inspired together!!

When you are desperate for time to yourself and you feel way out of balance in your life, it is time to start saying no!

It is so important to our mental health to nourish ourselves and stay in tuned with what we need.  We need time to renew our spirit, take time to read a book, or better yet, take a nap!  Setting clear boundaries in your life can be easier when you take time to know yourself.  It is imperative to be aware of what YOU want and put yourself FIRST.  YES YOU!  PUT YOU FIRST!  When you set clear boundaries, you take control of your life.  You decide on only involving yourself in activities that YOU want to be involved in.   This takes practice.  For some of us, saying no is hard to do.

Keep yourself whole.  Give of  yourself only to your worthy causes.  Stay strong in your own power.  People who lack boundaries constantly give pieces of themselves away.  No wonder they look worn, tired and depleted.  Say YES when you really mean it, when you engage  in an activity or a duty you enjoy, joy flows back to you.

Wishing you joy always and in all ways.

Every year I get excited for June to come; warm weather, school’s out and MY BIRTHDAY!  I celebrate all month telling (and reminding) everyone I see.  The reactions I get are priceless.  Some are happy for me and others who hide from their birthday seem perplexed by my cheer.  Why celebrate getting older?  Why Not?  If you are living your life to the fullest, enjoying your family, friends and striving to reach your full potential why not celebrate?  I use the day to reflect on my life and how far I have come.  Now where is it I need to be?……oh wait, I am already here. R ight here.  Right where I am supposed to be. 

If you are constantly growing, dreaming, and achieving than celebrate!  There is a beauty I  have discovered in getting older…getting to know myself on a deeper level, choosing wisely the friends I keep, letting go of past issues that no longer serve me and alas, becoming more confident in my daily life to pursue my passions.

This birthday choose to celebrate you, your only day to truly celebrate your unique self.  If you are not in the celebrating mood; grow not only in age but in self discovery.  Where do you want to be in a year from now?  I wish you the courage and the strength to make it happen. 

Celebrate you.